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20 Relationship Facts from My Life

It takes a long time to make sense of relationships. Sometimes I feel that it is well nigh impossible to make sense at all. I list some of the greatest mysteries that exist between human relationships:

  1. It is difficult to read other people’s minds.
  2. It is difficult to comprehend me as other people see me.
  3. What I think I know of others is an older version; the file keeps getting updated quite frequently.
  4. Most assumptions that I make in relationships are conditional. Sometimes I believe that I am important in the other person’s life, most times, I believe that I am not.
  5. Either of the beliefs does not really matter, since I know neither for sure.
  6. My assumptions are based on my life’s transactions with the other person. The higher the sharing of thoughts, laughter and worries, the closer I believe I am to the other.
  7. The absence of affection, care, and physical touch makes me believe that I am not important. I need to be touched to believe.
  8. I conveniently interpret silences in relationships as key indicators to absence of love.
  9. I have been often been wrong in my interpretations.
  10. Love is rarely reciprocated. Most times, we end up loving people who would not love us in return.
  11. Sometimes, the people we love them have their own love un-returned.
  12. Once I grew up, I rarely made a friend.
  13. You never know who will attract you and for how long. Sometime, some attractions last a month, but the longings linger on a life time.
  14. Sometimes, some relationships last a life time, but there is no real attraction, just adjustments.
  15. Happiness is not a normal state of being. Thoughts of happiness are.
  16. Sadness is not a normal state of being, loneliness is.
  17. Laughter is more alluring than tears. Years later, when everything else is forgotten, laughter remains etched in our memories.
  18. Tears of those you love hurt you just as much.
  19. The need for personal space is inversely proportionate to the need to be together. The more you feel like being together, the less space you require for yourself.
  20. It is impossible to reciprocate each person’s feeling in a similar manner.

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