Skip to main content

20 Relationship Facts from My Life

It takes a long time to make sense of relationships. Sometimes I feel that it is well nigh impossible to make sense at all. I list some of the greatest mysteries that exist between human relationships:

  1. It is difficult to read other people’s minds.
  2. It is difficult to comprehend me as other people see me.
  3. What I think I know of others is an older version; the file keeps getting updated quite frequently.
  4. Most assumptions that I make in relationships are conditional. Sometimes I believe that I am important in the other person’s life, most times, I believe that I am not.
  5. Either of the beliefs does not really matter, since I know neither for sure.
  6. My assumptions are based on my life’s transactions with the other person. The higher the sharing of thoughts, laughter and worries, the closer I believe I am to the other.
  7. The absence of affection, care, and physical touch makes me believe that I am not important. I need to be touched to believe.
  8. I conveniently interpret silences in relationships as key indicators to absence of love.
  9. I have been often been wrong in my interpretations.
  10. Love is rarely reciprocated. Most times, we end up loving people who would not love us in return.
  11. Sometimes, the people we love them have their own love un-returned.
  12. Once I grew up, I rarely made a friend.
  13. You never know who will attract you and for how long. Sometime, some attractions last a month, but the longings linger on a life time.
  14. Sometimes, some relationships last a life time, but there is no real attraction, just adjustments.
  15. Happiness is not a normal state of being. Thoughts of happiness are.
  16. Sadness is not a normal state of being, loneliness is.
  17. Laughter is more alluring than tears. Years later, when everything else is forgotten, laughter remains etched in our memories.
  18. Tears of those you love hurt you just as much.
  19. The need for personal space is inversely proportionate to the need to be together. The more you feel like being together, the less space you require for yourself.
  20. It is impossible to reciprocate each person’s feeling in a similar manner.

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Hush

You don't have to tell me. I just know. Its that little sniffle that comes through The unexplained pauses The slow responses I know when you call Just because you needed to cry.

Long Winter Chill

If I could do a Neruda, You would have smelt of summer roses And Autumn pine. There would have been sheer love Of the kind that causes our hearts to ache And loneliness bordering the divine. You would have had so many secrets Welling up as in a girly giggle And so few friends who would hear them all. I am no Neruda I can't paint you a Summer breeze Amidst this long winter chill.

That Fluttering of Broken Wings

If you were to cross the road and hurt your toe, I know that I will never know. As we go on to take different roads and move on across different shores, there is something that happens to our relationships. Something that estranges, disconnects, disintegrates. I know that you still think of me. I know this because I find myself thinking about you. And thoughts rarely get seeded on their own. It comes from you to I and from I to you until one of us is alive. Old relationships rarely die. Like broken winged moths, they hang around dark alleys of forgotten memory lanes. Ever so often, I can hear one of them flutter its wings. Not too close but never too far.